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Moving Through Fear

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By: Jay

Important for us to remember when we are going through tough times is to remain focused on the positive; and not to dwell upon the situation that can feed the fear and create more “stuff” in our life that is not helpful in resolving the situation to a positive conclusion.

When we give in to fear we are allowing “fear” to be in charge of the situation and not us.  Fear is not a conscious thing, we are.  Since we are conscious and self-aware beings with the power and ability to change our life for the better why do we forget this when our life experience is in turmoil?  The fear can be so overwhelming it becomes all-consuming, clouds our mind, fills us with doubt and “what ifs” that become our point of focus.  Having been there and experienced this fear I know how devastating it can be.  But it is in our pushing forward with determination, intent and purpose that we overcome the fear and bring light to a dark time in our life.

When I returned home after being in a drug induced coma, due to a respiratory arrest, fears popped up and were accompanied by “what ifs” on a daily basis.  These things occupied my mind throughout the day.  Once the effect of the drug used to keep me in a coma began to lessen I was determined to push myself forward.  This meant setting realistic goals.  Simple goals in the beginning and then more complex goals were set as the weeks, months and years went by. My one great fear was that I lost my ability to be creative, to be able to write and pursue other creative avenues that required me to use my mind in a variety of ways.  I had to face my fears one at a time, step by step, and be willing to take a break when “things” became overwhelming for me.  This blog is the result of one of the first goals I set.

Life is going to be what we make it.  What carries us forward in dark times?  It is being aware that we are conscious beings who have the power and ability to move forward in lifeIt is keeping focused on what we want not what we don’t want.  We move through the fear and send it back to the void from which it came by our determination, persistence, purpose and goal setting.  Giving our power away to non-living fear is not worth the consequences, as we all well know.  The power is ours to create the life we desire to live and express on a daily basis.

Live your life to the best of your ability.  Succeed to the level you desire.  Have an attitude of gratitude.  Recognize you are a valuable human-being endowed with special gifts and talents particular to you to succeed in expressing Life Itself as you.  You are and there is no question about it!

 

 

Changes & Personal Letter

Pic Of Jay   Hello Friends, 

There are changes coming to this blog, PCA.  Since I am now able to pursue career choices, which are near and dear, January will be last month that there will be daily posts of positive statements and articles.  There will be at least 3 posts per week of positive statements and on occasion articles.

Life is always full of changes and most are unexpected but changes are inevitable and life must go on and goals to reach. 

This blog began in August of 2011 for purely cathartic purposes, to get my mind and creativity active.  The healing process from the full respiratory arrest and coma has taken time and persistence.  But, what I have learned about myself, family, friends, is priceless.  I have found that rebuilding my self-confidence in doing what I love has been an extreme task entailing lots of risks, being able to look at things in a totally different light, and has deepened my understanding of self, others and this world.  Having the support and love of my wife and dear friends to pursue my career choices has been and is immeasurable. 

I am so thankful and appreciative of you, my fellow bloggers and followers, for staying with me through some dark and turbulent times.     

Life is always presenting us with unique pathways to follow, if we dare. 

Words cannot express my thanks for your comments and likes; they have strengthened me and my resolve in moving forward.

Should you decide to publish any of the articles which I have written please notify me and e-mail the name of the publication via the page titled “Contact Jay,” thanks.  In re-blogging or using any of the quotes please give credit to the author.  

Thank you for your support and prayers. 

As I begin my search for both talent and literary agents I know that you are backing me and that means the world to me.

Now for personal thanks to those who gave me opportunities early on.  I am thankful to all the editors/publishers who asked me to be a regular contributing columnist on positive attitudes for their publications and to interview successful local business owners.  I am thankful for being asked to speak to a variety of groups over the years.  I am thankful to our friend Ruth, who gave me the opportunity to be her successor on her television show and to create my own show and format many years ago.  I am thankful for my acting teacher, Jobyna, a wonderful and talented character actress.  I am very thankful to the director who recently cast me for a stage production, with much stage time and dialogue, and for her affirmative comments as to my acting chops (skills).  I am thankful to my first talent agent, Ruth, who backed me 100%.  To our friend Mokihana, a great talent, much Aloha.  Thanks to all of you for you.  

Being thankful, even for the not so good stuff, is an important part of successful living.        

Please stay in touch through the comment section and let me know how you and your goals are coming along.  Your comments will not be published

Thank you for taking the time out of your day to read this rather long post.  

All my best to you always and in all ways,

Jay

Claim your success!  You deserve it.  Jay

My World

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   Hi Everyone,

I am not one who shares personal information…yet today I want to share a few details in light that it can help you or someone you know who is in a quandary about where to go in life. 

Last year I had a full respiratory arrest, in a coma and there was a bit of time that oxygen was cut off to my brain, no major damage but just a twinge, so I have had to learn to deal with that uniqueness.  It has taken an abundance of determination, facing challenges, and allowing me to experience whatever it was I needed to experience to get to where I want to go.  Slight as it may be it still has had a profound affect on all things in my life.  From these experiences I have gained better insight and understanding of myself as me.  Decisions have not been easy for me and things I used to do in a twinkling of an eye, well, took a very long time to accomplish, outside my norm.  

This blog was my first step to regaining my creativity and life, literally. 

Newness is in my life.  As I am gaining more strength and mental determination, coming into my own so to speak, choices/decisions have been made and are now taking form.  I have made a decision to follow childhood dreams and resurrect my acting and writing careers.  I have had a 36 year hiatus from the stage and 20 years from television.  Looking at some head and body shots from decades ago of a slimmer and full head of hair me, my wife and I just laugh and wonder where the hair went…ah, genetics.

Determination has been revived and new plans of action are taking place for the acting and writing careers.  In order to get my feet wet; before I reactivate my union membership and secure talent and literary agents, community theatre is my start.   

Being a motivational speaker, writer, columnist, retired minister, and host/interviewer/creator/producer for two cable television shows all have been good prep work and stepping stones back to the fields I love and enjoy.

Looking back at my past accomplishments has enlightened and also astonished me…I forgot so much of what I did way back when.  How about you? Have you looked back at your past accomplishments, talents and abilities that have been in memory storage?  Take a bit of time and look back by creating a resume of your accomplishments.  If you are like me it will perk you up, spur you onward and forward.  It was in looking back that a boost of self-confidence filled my heart, my mind and my soul to pursue this new direction and it will for you too.

Don’t be like me and wait until you have that brush/experience with death to follow your dream(s).  Why not take a stab at something new and express your talents and abilities, dabble and get your feet wet, experience a new way of living and being; for that which is inside you is aching to be expressed.  Take a chance on yourself and allow yourself to be the you, you really are.  Know that to you all things are possible.

To all of you, thank you for being there and being part of my growth and continued growthI can’t tell you how important your support has been and is to me.  As the writing continues and new goals/ pursuits are achieved you will be one of the first to know.

Enter stage right…  

Jay   (I have just received a phone call informing me of a role in, The Odd Couple.)     

Afraid Of Being Different?

   Afraid of being different?  I know I was.  

Since childhood I did things that were different and out of the norm in the fields of creativity and self-expression.  There are many of us who have had this experience.  Being different oozes out of us no matter what we do.  Pretty sure we heard, “Different wasn’t normal”, whatever that is. Perhaps it meant being on the outside looking in or being bullied.   Both of which I experienced, still on the outside looking in but enjoying and appreciating it more than ever.

The past year has been a tough one for me and mine.   My recovery has taken longer than anticipated which has had a definite impact on all areas of life.  The one thing that has kept me going is my belief in a power greater than myself, followed by meditation-which took me two to three months to be able to do so without my head hurting from the drugs pumped into me to create a coma and fight a serious (life threatening) lung infection, pushing myself to the limit each and every day and of course positive prayer, known as scientific prayer or treatment.  So what have I learned?  Wow, things will never be the same for me, my outlook on life has had a definite change and what is important to me is now at the forefront of my life, more than ever before.  Will be pursuing a career, besides writing, which was a childhood goal.  Now that I am moving forward at a faster rate it is time for me to change the timber of this blog and in what and how it is presented.  Over the next few weeks you will see the differences emerging, slowly but surely.   I will be addressing issues in a new positive, direct way.  

There is always a turning point for us, for me it was last year.  The past two weeks have seen a change in goals and the last vestiges of not accepting being different have fallen away.  Oftentimes it takes a life changing event to induce this new perspective and goals to more fully accept being differentSo it was with me.  Perhaps we are given a second chance because the Infinite isn’t done with us yet and perhaps, just perhaps, we have something more to give and contribute to help others as well as ourselves and those in our sphere of life.     

The only constant in life and the universe is change.  There comes a time in our life we need to rebrand our creative work, to recreate ourselves, at times it is thrust upon us and we appear to be unwilling participants in the beginning.  Change gives us fodder for growth into new and exciting individuals.  Part of being different is change; it is learning to utilize our unique and diverse abilities and talents to the fullest extent for success. 

What was the turning pointing in your life?

If you would like to share your experience please leave a comment and I will post it.

Thanks,

Jay

The Simple Life Part 1 Of 2

On My Death And Living

On my death and living.  Last year I died of a full respiratory arrest.  I was revived, placed in a coma with two days to live.

Over the course of the past year plus the challenges I have had due to this incident have allowed me to grow on personal, professional and spiritual levels.

Having been on the other side and enjoying it before being pulled back into my body, it changes you in many ways.  It really wasn’t my time to die; my life here apparently has more to do and achieve.  Giving up was not an option, persistence and determination, diligence and the like were and are part of my daily routine, as is meditation.   We can’t afford to give up on ourselves no matter what comes down the pike because we are wonderful creative expressions of life  itself worthy of greater good and well-being.      

The posts/articles on the PCA blog are to convey the beauty and spectacular beings we really are and the power that resides within us and is us and that to us all is possible.

Always remember, you are greater than you think you are and  you can achieve whatever you put your mind to, believe me.

Jay

The Anniversary

   As the first anniversary approaches of my dying from a full respiratory arrest and being brought back with the help of my wife, paramedics and hospital ER staff, it brings up many feelings and memories. 

The past year has been a unique road to recovery and filled with a variety of challenges. 

I remember being on the other side of life and what I saw and felt.

Life has a whole new meaning on all levels for me and has obviously altered my perspective.  From everyday living, family and friends, to spirituality, new and wonderful experiences have allowed me to expand my awareness.  Not all  were wonderful, but, labeled wonderful as they were learning experiences.

I am now creating a collection of my writings for publication and in the near future searching for a literary agent and publisher, perhaps even investigate writing a column again on positive attitudes.  This blog is my first foray into writing after a very long hiatus and it has been cathartic.  The next avenue of creative expression and goal, to again have speaking engagements local, state, national, and international.

It would have been so very easy to give up and merely exist in my easy chair bemoaning the state of my affairs and play the poor me card.  I am a fighter and persistent.  When my wife was informed that I would be in a drug induced coma for over a week and may not make it, two days tops, she said, “Not my husband, he is a fighter.”  After four days I was brought out of the coma.  I was breathing on my own and no longer needed the respirator.

Life is filled with surprises and it is how we decide to deal with them on a daily basis which is extremely important.  I fought long and hard to get back to living and pushed too hard at times but there was really no giving up for me. Did setbacks occur?  Yes. Unexpected surgery three months later was just one.  I had to learn to deal with the setbacks and keep my focus on recovery.  I have my good days and my very good days just like everyone else. 

I thank my wife for the CPR,  the paramedics, doctors, nurses and staff for the wonderful and loving care given to me when in the ER, two critical care units and cardiac floor.

I thank each of you for reading and sharing this blog, for your comments and heartfelt thanks to the blogging community.

Never give up, be positive about living life, love unconditionally and forgive unconditionally-yourself and others, let go of thoughts and beliefs which do not serve your higher good, don’t give in to the negatives, be kind to yourself and others, take time for yourself during the day and most of all, be you and all the specialness you are. Let those in your life know how much they are loved and appreciated.

Life is really wonderful and so are you.  Jay

 

 

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