We have all encountered times when there is a need to talk to someone about something. We just need an ear for someone to listen to us…but we may encounter interruptions, interjections and unsolicited advice. When this happens in our time of need we can be devastated, upset, frustrated, or just numb at the insensitivity of the person we chose to listen to the situation that is causing internal conflict.
This is not the only time we may meet with this non-listening situation…it can happen anywhere; a store employee, cashier, waiter/waitress, friend, family member, co-worker, boss, etc. It can be very frustrating when this occurs and may irk us a bit, that, not only is the person not listening they do not understand what it is we are conveying to them concerning… There are times we just want to scream, “Listen to what I am saying!”
The important part of any relationship; be it with ourselves, a loved one, a temporary encounter, or permanent relationship, is listening to what is being said and allowing the other person the courtesy of listening without coloring the thoughts being presented with any of our own prejudices or beliefs.
Listening is an art. When we can listen to someone without forming judgments or trying to influence them with what we believe they should do we have begun to master the art of listening.
A key to moving ahead in life is listening. Listening to our self-talk, and taking corrective measures when we are putting ourselves down, doubting our abilities and our talents, giving power to a fear by repetition of a phrase and what we say about ourselves in conversations with others is vital to improving our life. As we listen to ourselves there has to be no judgment but realization of a specific area of our life that we need to improve. If we call ourselves, “stupid, idiot” or other derogatory names time to stop and take control of how we relate to our-self. Taking stock in our positives life improves in bits and pieces and grows into leaps and bounds. Take time to stop and listen to all conversations, with yourself and others, you will be surprised what you learn.
In the meantime, affirm your great qualities and abilities to achieve to whatever level in life you so choose. Listen and listen well for this will take you further than you can ever imagine.
I hear you and I am listening!